March 5, 2009

One day, someday, will be our day

Wow time is just flying bye. It's funny a couple months ago I thought for sure we were going to have referral in hand. New years, Valentines, my birthday all those days passed by with a heavy heart, not knowing when our day will come. We still have no idea, I wish I had an answer as to when. Now I'm just telling everyone we will be parents in 2009, that way I have many months to make this happen.

I'm a hairdresser(colorist) and I see my clients every 4 to 6 weeks, they have been through this process with me. I waited on telling them because I knew it was going to be a long road, just didn't know it would be a three year road. So now when certain clients come in and ask that big question, I'm starting to get annoyed. "Have you heard anything". I know they mean well, it's just hard. I always tell them you will know when it happens I will be doing flips all over the place, and my smile will be even bigger. From someone who has never been through this process, they understand the wait, "aren't there so many children to adopt, what's the hold up". Can't you just go over there and pick her up? Oh how I wish I could. and then the whole process is discussed further so they understand why this is not an easy thing. I think they leave still very confused since I can't answer every question on WHY it takes so long.

I look forward to the day I can share my happy news of receiving the call about our daughter and our court date, and then travel plans. That day will be the happiest day for Keith and I. I wake up every morning lately thinking this could be the day we become parents. This process has brought so much joy, and sometimes sadness, but in the end it has made me stronger and patient.

Thank you friends who have made this process just a little easier for me. I'm so grateful to you and I hope I can do the same for you. Have a great weekend.

19 comments:

Julie said...

Hang in there! I think you should make a decal that says,"When I hear something I will let you know." write it backwards so that your clients can read it in the mirror.(:
Hugs. Have a nice weekend. Do something that would be really annoying with kids, like a pub crawl.

Amanda said...

I enjoy this post because it explains why it is that everyone whom we encounter that are on the same adoption road end up becoming so important to us.

People not involved with the process don't "get it" and some of them, no matter how much you explain, never will.

They do mean well, but it doesn't mean that it's any less annoying. Someday WILL be your turn and when it does, everyone who's on the same road-those that are ahead of you and behind you-will rejoice WITH you. And, when someone asks "have you heard anything?" you'll be able to say "YES!!!!!!!".

:)

Meg said...

I know - I hate those questions! And it's the same for me. I can't answer them. I have NO idea why there are so many orphans and yet a referral takes up to a year.
I know it sucks not having your daughter in your arms yet :-(

Nate and Stefany Head said...

You have made my process SO much easier, friend! Thank you!!!! I"m also so grateful to not be alone on this journey! :) Still praying....

Stephanie said...

ugh the dreaded, "have you heard anything?" Oh how I hated hearing that question. As hard as the waiting is, you will get through it, I promise. It is wonderful to tell people once you have heard! You are almost there, I cannot wait for your day. :)

courtney rose said...

Hey there! Have I wished you a happy birthday yet??? If not- happy belated birthday! I hope you had a wonderful day and got lots of really big hugs and smooches from your beloved....

As for The Wait....

Sigh.

I loved Julie's suggestion about the decal.

jamullins said...

Your day is coming soon! And I promise it will be worth the wait!!
Praying for you!!

Julie

Missy said...

Oh, Erin...so many of us can not wait to hear your good news!!!

Christy. said...

Small world again... Do you go to Lindsay at Robert's of Portland to get your hair cut??

Justine said...

You took the words right out of my mouth! There is a lot of trust involved in this process and for me, some days it is there and well, others... not so much. Wouldn't it be nice to have all the answers??

You are such a wonderful supporter and always so positive. I enjoy reading your blog and really, truly can't wait to celebrate your big day soon.

Becky said...

Can't wait to hear your good news!

neely said...

i totally understand...some days I can handle the questions with grace and others days I want to cry. Someday!

Ted and Lori said...

I like Julie's idea of the pub crawl :) I'm sorry we missed you. We were all sick most of the weekend (really gross stomach-bug sick) so you wouldn't have wanted to see us. Thinking of you.

The Albertsons said...

thanks for your sweet comment :).
and oh how i wish you could color my hair!
and hmmm... i'm thinking one of those guitar africa decals that i see from your etsy site would be a great b'day present for my hubby...
:)
becca

Brooke said...

I so remember those questions. Ahhh!

Your new blog style looks really cute. Love the colors.

Ready for snow this weekend?

~Brooke

Fine family said...

So sorry Girl it is coming I know it! Cafe Press has a great shirt to express ourselves!" No, still waiting. No, no news. Yes make it a double!"
It will all be worth it soon :o)

Steve and Aimee Walker said...

Definately need some girl referrals. Praying that the girls come soon!

Brad and Fran Hoagland said...

My sentiments exactly! Only you said it much sweeter than I can. Tomorrow is Monday...so come on phone!!!! Ring!!!!! Wondering what your DTE date is? Ours is June 3. Never ever thought we would be seeing Easter stuff out and not have her either. We gotta hang in there together! Hey! We may travel together!

Kris & Staci said...

lol, we are going through the same thing. I know people mean well and that we would probably be hurt if nobody was asking, but it gets hard to keep telling them, "not yet"